“You’ve already taken that time to figure out that you’re compatible with each other,” says Winnie*, a 22-year-old recent college graduate.“Beyond that initial attraction, the puppy love stage, and those first movie dates, you’ve already earned each other’s loyalty and trust.” Susan, a 27-year-old graduate school student who is currently dating someone she was friends with first, also agrees.I didn’t put in enough effort to dress up for our dinner dates, for example, or explain why I had to stay late at school. Our relationship had evolved from a platonic to romantic one, but because we knew each other first as friends, we took it for granted that we also knew each other’s relationship expectations, which became the root of many arguments.
When I set out to explore this question for this piece, one of my own stories kept coming back to me.
I had a friend whom I’d known for almost six years.
I knew his passions and fears and appreciated his support through good and bad times, and over time he had become one of my best guy friends.
Next time, should I decide the risk is worth it again, I may find that dating your best friend can be the most rewarding relationship yet.
Some people may believe that guys and girls can never be just friends, but there are many male/female BFF pairs out there to prove those people wrong.